Embrace the Darkness

My friend shared with me a couple of days ago about a solstice event she attended. It was all about embracing the darkness. Embracing the grief. Embracing the fear. Embracing the broken places inside us. The moment she said the words ‘embracing the... read more

Paris: My First Geographic

“What made you decide to study French?”  I get this question all the time. And it’s a tough question to answer for several reasons. I mean, you’ve perhaps heard the joke: “What do you call someone who speaks 3 languages? Trilingual.  What... read more

Two Ways You Can Turn Your Problems Into Your Path to Growth

But what do you do when all this stuff so totally feels like a failure? What about that To Do list with so little crossed off? What about the dishes that are piling up, or the clothes I haven’t put away, or the emails I haven’t responded to, or the workout plan I haven’t stuck to, or the diet I haven’t been adhering to?

Aren’t those all failures?

I’ve got good news and bad news for you, sisters and brothers. The answer is a resounding NO.

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One of the Best Ways to Forgive Yourself

If you came from a family like I did, no one was modeling a whole lotta life skills. There’s a lot I’ve had to live, and learn, and teach myself. And that’s hard.

More importantly, that stuff takes time.

Time I often feel like I don’t have.

But here’s the deal, when I tell myself that from here on out I have to just be extra good, do everything right, I’m setting myself up for failure.

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Forgiveness… Redux

Got false beliefs?
Got low self-esteem?
Got a lot of crazy negative thinking about yourself?
Is the everything-you’re-doing-wrong-committee meeting several times a day in your head?

If you answered yes to any of these questions and you wanna nip that shiz in the bud, I suggest you give forgiveness some serious consideration.

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In Honor of Lois Wilson

Lois played a significant role in the founding of Alcoholics Anonymous because it was Lois who pointed out to Bill that, even if he had not yet once succeeded in getting another alcoholic sober, the mere effort to help another alcoholic was keeping him sober.

After Lois pointed that out, Bill faced a crisis that had him seriously tempted to drink again. And so he knew he had to find someone else to try and help or he would indeed turn back to drinking. He found Dr. Bob, and thus Alcoholics Anonymous was born.

But I’d like to honor Lois for a different awareness: the realization that she herself had been profoundly affected by someone else’s drinking.

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