As anyone who uses Facebook has seen, the tributes to Prince started showing up fast and furious the minute he passed.
One really spoke to me in particular, and that one pointed out how Prince had such amazing success against all odds.
Obviously, I was not alone in being really shaken by Prince’s death, but with that post, I understood what was really stirred up in me.
I suspect that as people affected by addiction or the family disease of addiction, we all know something about the odds being against us.
The obstacles in these circumstances, or in the face of any kind of trauma, are immense.
And I could really see a parallel here.
It’s easy to forget what Prince started with. A 5’2″ effeminate black man born to a broken family with very little means in the rough and tumble neighborhood of northeast Minneapolis.
If the circumstances were any indication, this man was not supposed to succeed.
My imperfections and my failures are as much a blessing from God as my successes and my talents, and I lay them both at his feet. ~Mahatma Gandi
But ooohhh man, did I seriously used to think they were failures!
Let me tell you a little bit about the committee in my head. Or maybe I don’t need to; you probably already know all about the one in yours. But just in case, my committee is the one that constantly repeats the refrain:
“You. Are. Never. Going. To make it!”
Or, “If you don’t start (doing x, y, or z,) you’re never going to get anywhere!” “Oh my God, you always (fill in the blank – whatever it is, it’s not good according to the committee.)” In sum, every time I don’t manage to do something I set out to do, or I don’t succeed in changing a behavior, the consensus of the committee is: “Fail. You know, we really don’t think you have what it takes.”
Yeah, I know.
But what do you do when all this stuff so totally feels like a failure? What about that To Do list with so little crossed off? What about the dishes that are piling up, or the clothes I haven’t put away, or the emails I haven’t responded to, or the workout plan I haven’t stuck to, or the diet I haven’t been adhering to?
Aren’t those all failures?
I’ve got good news and bad news for you, sisters and brothers. The answer is a resounding
So what are these things then?
They’re your path to growth. (more…)