You know the saying: “Waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

And I know many of us are very, VERY, familiar with that feeling.

After having lived with so much chaos and trauma, it can be really hard to trust the calm.

It’s an attitude that can be a real challenge to shift because the distance from where you are to trusting calm and good things can feel so great.

So here’s a quick suggestion that can help you make the shift. It’s based on the tested principle of taking things one step at a time.

Rather than expect yourself to trust the calm, and to feel comfortable when things are going well, simply ask yourself any forward looking question that starts with “What if…?”

  • “What if peace and calm were actually normal?”
  • “What if my Higher Power actually intends those good things for me?”
  • “What if I don’t have to expect the other shoe to drop?”
  • “What if my past doesn’t have to dictate my future?”

Ask any question starting with “What if…?” that feels right for your situation.

Here’s the caveat, though: you have to truly be curious about the answer. In fact, it might be helpful to straight out journal about the answer.

“What if…?” is NOT a rhetorical question.

Your curiosity about the answer is precisely what will create some distance between you and this common but unhelpful expectation.

True curiosity will get you unstuck.

Your curiosity will also interrupt any abusive expectations that your reaction to things going well magically shift from fear to trust in one fell swoop.

Simply asking “What if…?” creates a much more reasonable expectation, one most of us can meet.

True curiosity is much kinder.

Now, we can also be curious about the past – and our inventories serve that purpose. But it’s also important that we use curiosity to help us move forward.

So now, I’d like to hear from you: what “What if…?” question would be helpful for you to ask yourself? What comes up for you when you ask it? Share your question and your insights in the comments below. I read every one.

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